Complications...

Not everything always goes according to the plan. This is true also in wedding planning. When we have a mix of planning a wedding, an unconventional pride who can´t make up her mind and a hubby who has little to say about his mind, we have all the ingredients to have some upsidaisy -moments. This happened with no other than my wedding dress.

I am not sure what really happened there. I think it has to have had something to do with misunderstanding between me and the dressmaker about the ending result. Also I know I had trouble making a decision what elements to include in the dress and dressmaker didn´t really think my ideas in a critical way. Also dressmaker maybe thought she could do thing that actually were not in her best skill level (mainly about the colors in this case). This all ending up to the point, that I ordered a dress from eBay.

Yes, you heard me right. I will have a wedding dress from eBay. It is quite difficult to grasp, since the dress costed no more than 20 euros and arrived in a week from ordering. I ordered the new dress only a day later from trying on the dress my dressmaker had been working on. Was it a hasty decision? Maybe. Was it the right decision? I actually feel I can say with all my heart, Yes.

I tried on the dress on Monday (2nd of May) and I still haven´t lost the smile from my face the dress gave me. I love it! I feel like sharing already pictures of me in the dress and I would love to wear it at the house all times! This time around I went with what just feels and looks like me. It is not trying to look like a fusion of my style and wedding. No, it is a dress in which I am getting married to the man I love. No more and no less. Main point is, that I feel good about myself in it and it makes me feel pretty and hopefully Mr. J will like also how I look in it.

 The next difficult action to make was to actually talk with the dressmaker about the future of the dress she was making. Since I have already put money in the fabrics and she has done working hours to get the dress to the point it already was, I couldn´t just leave the project. We talked on the phone and I gave her an option to try to still convince me of her vision how the dress would look at the end before wondering other options. She made a quick drawing of the dress and took an image drying to make the fabrics and dress present the vision. I still wasn´t convinced or even getting a lovely vibe out of it. So I had to make a decision. Would I have her make a new skirt to the dress (the skirt being the biggest problem in the wedding dress), or could we do her idea of “fixing” it or try to get out of ass little workhours as possible, so this dress that would not be THE DRESS wouldn´t cost much more extra.

I went with trying to save rest of my money as much as possible. This means, we will try to make the top-part usable, since it had only few problems and most of the expensive fabric. Hopefully I can figure some use for it in the future. The skirt part we will forget. I don´t want her to spend any more hours in it, since I don´t see myself using it. She will also try to check if she can help with few small details to fix in the new dress, since it is a bit too loose from the top.

All in all, it was a difficult decision to admit, that money might have been wasted and to tell it also to the dressmaker. On the other hand, I have now a dress I can call The Dress! and it can be used after the wedding also (, which is like putting money in the bank, right?).

Meeting with my bridesmaids

On a better tone. We had another meeting with my lovely bridesmaids. Mainly we ate some delicious cheese and talked about the programs in a more detailed level. I really love my bridesmaids and I think they complete each other and it seems to me that they get a long really well even though they haven´t know before. I feel we all had a great time talking and putting everything together. We assigned some tasks to handle, mainly the programs and things like music, decoration details and road signs.

We also finally have our wedding-dance music. I remember how at one of my first blogs (in the old blog site) I wrote how I was worried about the dance. I think this time we are going with what feels good for us and natural. I said that dancing some wedding dance in a chair doesn´t really feel like us. When I and Mr. J go to dance, it is bar dancing. That is something I can do from a chair, but a lovely slow dance... it is not really our best expertise to do without me driving over Mr. J: s toes or trying to lead. With the new dress we might have chance to make our dance more comfortable in that matter.

I think this is all for now. I will end this post with finally the pictures of the wedding invitations, which hopefully have reached everyone or at least most people. This is the Finnish text version. We did also make a Dutch text for our Belgium guests and a big applause to Mr. J for making the poem in his own words and I think it might even be better than this one. In non-poem way this Finnish one goes:

We met in the PlayStation,
Don´t know how we managed to fit in there.

We moved under one roof,
in our hearts we trusted.

Now it is time of marriage,
together to experience
the forever loves magic.